Once, not too long ago, I was talking about making sure that S and G are a year apart in school and that more importantly, if we live in a small town, that they have different teachers. They do look a lot alike, but we’re hoping that because they’re different people, their individuality can come through without trying to overshadow the other. (All of you with brothers or sisters are probably shaking your heads–of course, siblings try to overshadow each other, competition is why we have brothers and sisters!)

Gilbert starts daycare (at the same place Seamus goes) afternoons only next week. We’d been in LA, and S had been sick, so we hadn’t made as many trips to daycare as we usually do. However, I was surprised to learn that Seamus’s teacher (a friend of mine) was moving rooms and would soon be Gilbert’s teacher. So much for having different teachers at the same stages of life! Don’t get me wrong, I really like and respect M, and I’m delighted that she’ll be Gilbert’s teacher, but it’s funny that one thing I felt so strongly about is already in shambles and the boys aren’t even through a full year of school yet.

Some good things: She already knows how I feel about breastfeeding, and we’ve had good talks about how Gilbert can be soothed. Seamus doesn’t really care as long as he’s playing, eating, and got Shalay to give him attention. Daycare also wears G out! He slept from 5pm to 7:15 am, waking at 8 and 4 to eat!

Time for a walk!


  1. As a teacher, I say having the same teacher can be really great! I put so much effort into getting to know families, that having siblings is a true blessing because we start so much farther ahead in terms of communication and understanding each other’s background. Many of the younger siblings also come to school quite enthusiastic, because they know what to expect from what they heard from their older sibling. Most of the siblings I have had in my class have been quite different from each other, and each amazing in their own ways. Give in!

    1. Amy,
      I absolutely see your point! I can only imagine how much work you put into each family and how that would be better starting point for a family you already know. And, you have experience with being close in age to a sibling! 🙂

  2. You proffer points for thought. Your friend Amy introduces another angle.
    I offer my thinking as a former teacher:
    In this day of 35:1 ratios, there’s very little time to be influenced by family position for a beleaguered teacher. That’s less than two min. of individual time per student in a 50 minute session. 12:1 ratios would give a much more meaningful situation to your concern(s). And, before you invest too much time in raising the perfect child, remember genetics plays 99.99%!

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